31st March 2023

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Tantra is an ancient spiritual practice that originated in India thousands of years ago. It can feel a little daunting to people (there is a lot to learn, I still feel like I know nothing! But to put simply it is a holistic approach to life that combines physical, emotional, and spiritual practices to help individuals connect with themselves and others on a deeper level. Tantra is often associated with sexuality, but it encompasses so much more than that. It's about using your body, breath, and energy to cultivate awareness, presence, and connection.

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I first discovered Tantra a many years ago when I was going through a challenging time in my life. I was feeling disconnected from my body and my emotions, and I felt there was a blockage in me preventing meaningful connections with others. I had heard about Tantra and was curious to learn more, so I started attending workshops and classes. What I discovered through my exploration of Tantra was truly transformative. Through practices like breathwork, meditation, and movement, I was able to connect with my body in a way I never had before. I learned how to listen to my body's signals and respond with love and compassion. I also discovered the power of touch and how it can be used to heal and connect with others.

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One of the most profound benefits of Tantra for me has been the way it has transformed my relationships. Through practices like eye-gazing and conscious touch, I've learned how to connect with others in a way that is authentic and vulnerable. I've learned how to communicate my needs and desires with clarity and compassion, and I've developed a deeper understanding of the needs and desires of others.

Tantra is extremely intimate and involves a lot of vulnerbility, so it is not something I can offer to everyone right off the bat, and must be taken slowly. However, some of the practices I am always happy to give an introduction to most are Yoni and Ligam massage.

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Yoni massage is a type of massage that focuses on the vulva and vagina of individuals who have a yoni (which is a Sanskrit term for the female genitalia). The practice is designed to help individuals connect with their bodies and experience pleasure in a safe and non-judgmental way.

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Yoni massage is often practiced within the context of Tantra, which emphasizes the connection between the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of our being. Within this context, yoni massage is seen as a way to tap into the energetic and spiritual potential of the yoni and to cultivate greater awareness, presence, and connection.

The practice of yoni massage typically involves slow, sensual touch and massage of the vulva and vagina, with a focus on relaxation and pleasure rather than orgasm. The massage may also include breathing exercises, visualization, and other techniques designed to help individuals connect with their bodies and tap into their own inner wisdom. The equivelent for those with a penis is Lingam massage.

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While yoni/lingam massage can be a powerful tool for healing and self-discovery, it's important to approach it with care and respect for individual boundaries and comfort levels. It should only be practiced with a willing and informed partner who is comfortable with the practice, and who has given their explicit consent.

Tantra has also helped me to cultivate a deeper sense of self-love and self-acceptance. Through practices like self-pleasure and self-massage, I've learned how to connect with my own body and honor my own needs and desires. This has translated into a greater sense of confidence and self-assuredness in all areas of my life.

In conclusion, I believe that Tantra has so much to offer to anyone who is looking to deepen their connection with themselves and others. Whether you're struggling with intimacy, feeling disconnected from your body, or simply looking for a more meaningful way to connect with others, Tantra can help you to cultivate awareness, presence, and connection in all areas of your life. It is a slow road that requires much openess, patience and vulverabiliy but can grant great personal rewards.