Before We Meet, the part you don’t see: Notes from a London independent escort on how I prepare, and why it matters.
There’s a certain feeling before I meet someone. Especially after a full day, I feel the shift. It’s not nerves, more like focus. A sense of excitement that something secret and intimate is about to begin.
For new clients, there’s usually a bit more to consider. If we’re meeting for dinner, and you’d like me to choose, I’ll book somewhere that feels right, not just for the food, but the mood. Ambience is vital. London can be noisy and tight for space, so I normally look for places where we can actually hear each other and relax. If we’re meeting somewhere busier, I might suggest a drink at the hotel or nearby bar first. It’s about creating a little moment to land, so things don’t feel rushed, or intruded upon, whilst we get to know each other. If it’s someone I’ve met before, things feel different. Lighter, more relaxed and familiar. We might have been emailing over a few weeks, or months. There’s a rhythm already there. Most of my long-standing clients live overseas, so those meetings excitingly feel like seeing an old friend, but with that spark.
The kind of booking we share matters. I do enjoy short, intimate encounters, but I must admit my favourite is longer dates that allow for depth. So a multi-hour bookings with dinner is perfect. Conversation, time to build atmosphere, and anticipation that can unfold at a natural speed. For shorter two-hour bookings, I still recommend a quick drink before, so we can ease in. In every booking, I need some social time, not for politeness, but because it keeps things from feeling mechanical. It gives us both a chance to behave naturally, to speak, to see each other without pressure. It makes the whole encounter feel more human, more real.
The kind of booking shapes how I prepare. A quiet coffee date needs something different to an overnight. I do sometimes travel or have multi-day engagements, but only when there’s an existing positive connection, and only when it fits around my job. I don’t like to overbook or over extend myself. That said, I do like when we have space to settle into things, it gives us time to stretch out, time to build intimacy. Waking up next to each other, talking and touching well into the night. Planning our days together, or the excitement of waiting for you to return in the evening and being able to soothe and brighten your day. If you’re someone who moves fast in your daily life, I want our time together to feel like a pause, not another demand.
The getting ready becomes its own kind of ritual. It’s not about perfection, it’s about getting into the right headspace. A long shower to soften the day. The warmth of water, with something that smells clean but sensual, curling into the steam while I unwind. I like to take my time, smooth shea butter into warm, clean skin, sealing my softness. Then the scent, currently it’s Opheon by Diptyque. It’s musky, warm, and soft. It lingers but doesn’t overpower. I like the idea that scent becomes part of the memory but that it never overwhelms. (Note: I can meet perfume free if you request.) My hair is long, thick and natural, and all mine. Preparing it is part of the ritual too. I don’t style it heavily, it rarely behaves, so I let it fall as it wants to. But I brush it slowly, adding a touch of oil so it holds its soft scent, a clean floral mixture of warmth, and whatever I’ve worn that day. People often complement it. I must admit that I do like that. I could never cut it, as much as I love women with short hair, I love having a long mane!
Lingerie is chosen to match the mood. If you’ve shared preferences, I’ll honour them; if not, I go by instinct. Bordelle when I want to feel taut and self-assured. Tatu Couture when I’m feeling romantic. Maison Close for when I want to be relaxed and playful. I don’t always wear lingerie beneath my dress (especially in summer) but I’ll pack a favourite set to change into later, once we’re relaxed and ready. Clothing is chosen for comfort and confidence. I want to feel like myself. Attractive but low-key, a little tactile, and suitable for wherever we’re going. I want to feel good in it, not just look the part. Always sensual in fabric and fit, silk skirts, soft knits, well tailored, that sort of thing. Things that move with me not against me, basically the kind of outfit I’d wear on a date I was genuinely excited about, because, ideally, I am.
Before we meet, I’ll check in to confirm time and place, and I’ll let you know what I’m wearing. I’ll also ask how you’re feeling. Not out of formality, but because it tells me how best to approach our first moments, something small and helpful that seems to help settle the nerves if this is new for you.. If I’m feeling a little unsure too (which does happen) I’ll usually say so. More often than not, they reply in kind, or offer reassurance, and that breaks the ice more than anything else ever could.
I bring a few things with me, a small speaker with playlists I’ve put together, some massage oil, and depending on what we’ve discussed, maybe a toy or two. Just small things that give us options. And of course, discretion is a given. I live a full life outside of this, and I imagine you do too. So there are no worries there.
This work isn’t about putting on a show. It’s about being present with another person, letting someone in. It’s not about trying to impress you or performing some version of myself that I think you’ll like. I want you to see the best of who I really am: real, relaxed, and tuned in. And if you bring your best self too, you’ll get all of mine in return, that’s when things actually get interesting.
However we’re spending our time, short and sweet or slow and unhurried, I want it to feel natural. I don’t want things to feel transactional. I want it to feel like time well spent, something memorable, in that understated, lasting way. I’ll arrive present, comfortable, and open. The the bit I love most is when it stops feeling like a booking and starts to feel like a proper moment between two people. If that’s what you’re after too, then we’ll probably get on just fine.
