When it comes to meeting a companion, the decision of when to become intimate is a personal one. While some people may prefer to skip straight to the physical aspect, there are many reasons why taking your date out for dinner first can enhance the overall experience.
Firstly, I have often found that sharing a meal can be a sensual and erotic experience. Food has long been associated with pleasure, and the act of eating together can create a sense of intimacy and connection. The smell, taste, and texture of food stimulates the senses and sparks arousal, setting the stage and building anticipation for a more satisfying physical experience later on.
In addition to the sensory properties of food, dining out also provides an opportunity for conversation and getting to know each other better. As philosopher Jean Anthelme Brillat-Savarin once said, "Tell me what you eat, and I will tell you who you are." Sharing a meal allows the time and space for relaxed and comfortable conversation, helping build trust and create a deeper emotional connection between us. Having an emotional connection will enhance the physical aspect of the relationship, when we both feel at ease it makes it more satisfying and fulfilling.
Another benefit of taking a date out for dinner first is that it can help set the mood and create a romantic atmosphere. Exploring a new restaurant together, somwhere with a bustling or romantic ambiance can all contribute to a feeling of romance, excitment and sensuality, making the sex even more enjoyable, as it has had time to build in an organic way.
Finally, (my favourite reason) taking your date out for dinner before being intimate can also help build anticipation and prolong the experience. Delaying gratification can increase desire and heighten pleasure, making sex even more intense and satisfying. That's not to say that the other way can be fun too (once we know each other) then we can really let loose on that menu knowing all we will be fit for afterwards is a nap and some spooning!
To recap, I guess there is no right or wrong way to approach intimacy in a relationship, but there are many benefits to taking your date out for dinner before getting down to it. From the sensory and erotic properties of food and eating to the opportunity for conversation and creating a romantic atmosphere, dining out enhancess the overall experience and leads to a more satisfying sexual relationship. To finsish with the words of my favourite writers "One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well."
